EVERY ... and ONE of them missed the most important part of information that may be.
I know this because I read almost all of them when I try to be better at attracting women.
It was not until I worked out this one key element that changes everything.
That one important piece of information is:
The object is a feeling, not the mind.
If you can make him feel that he wanted to feel, then he will be attracted to you.
If you can not, then he will not.
It may not look like it was revolutionary.
In fact, it may even seem obvious.
But this idea has the capacity to change everything you thought you knew about how to attract women.
Standard model for how to attract women is to learn series of actions that you can apply in every situation to attract women.
The fact that the attraction is a feeling, not the mind, makes this method attractive woman over on two important points.
Point 1: The action you do not specify how he felt when he's around you.
If you told me in a very needy, sticky, and depending on the approval to feel good, how doyou think he would feel?
Do you think he will feel free, open, lovable, happy, and excited or suppressed and depend on?
How do you think things would change if you tell a confident manner mischievous, and funny?
This principle applies to any action.
You can take the lead in a way that makes him feel depressed and chill out or you can lead a way that makes him feel happy and appreciated.
You can tell a story in a way that made him feel suspicious or curious.
You can buy him a drink in a way that screamed’ SLEEP WITH ME PLEASE!' And make her feel depressed or you can buy him a drink in a way that made him feel accepted into the group.
You can say 'I really like the hat that makes her feel disgusted and you can say' Go fuck yourself! 'In a way that makes it feel vibrant and alive.
This is not the actions you take to determine how he felt when he was around you, but how do you take such measures.
Point 2: Different women want to experience different things.
Is a 18-year-old party girl who is confident, strong, and out to feel the same way as the calm, quiet, book worm?
Is a lawyer has a 32-year-old children are aware of the biological clock will want to feel the same as the 45-year-old widow children have flown the coop and are ready to make up for lost youth?
There is no one set of actions, thought patterns or tactics that will allow a woman to feel that he wanted to be because not all women want to feel the same way.
The way women (and men for that matter) want to feel is determined by how they currently feel.
If they feel alone then they will most likely want to feel connected.
If they feel helpless so they will probably want to feel safe.
If they feel strong, confident, and bored so they may feel excited.
How to determine how a woman feels she wants to feel.
You cannot help a woman feel that she wanted to feel regardless of how he felt at this time.
It becomes a little more complicated because...
... The way a woman feels a change from minute to minute.
A woman can feel happy and excited and then turned into a sad and depressed.
He could feel loved and safe and then turned into fear and insecurity.
He can feel beautiful and alive then turned into fat and bored.
These two points make the standard model to learn how to attract women too much.
There is no set of actions you can learn to attract women because it's not the act that created the attraction.The reason these two key points will have such an impact on your game is that they change the fundamental problem you’re trying to solve.
There’s no one set of tools you can use on every woman because every woman is different.
When most guys don’t get the success with women they want, they rationalize that they’re just not doing something right.
They think their actions are flawed and they need to change them to attract the women they want.
They start reading dating advice trying to answer the question: what actions can I take to attract women?
Hopefully, by now, you can see that this is a pointless question on two counts.
1. Your actions don’t determine how attracted she is to you. The way you’re performing those actions is the key component.
2. There’s no one set of actions that works with all women because there’s no one specific feeling that all women are chasing.
To get true success with women, the question you’re asking needs to change from ‘how can I make her attracted to me?’ to:
‘How can I help her feel the way she wants to feel?’
There’s no step-by-step formula or set of tactics that are going to allow you to effortlessly and freely attract women.
The way to attract the woman you want is:
- Notice how she’s feeling
- Help her feel the way she wants to feel
- Notice any changes in how she feels
- And change how you’re making her feel accordingly.
This might seem like it’s a bit complicated, but it’s not.
It’s actually the most natural and simple thing you can do. In fact, I’d be willing to bet you’ve done this more than once, without even thinking about it.
It happens when you really care about a woman and you’re willing to help her feel good.
It happens when you’re focused enough on the woman in front of you (rather than stuck in your head trying to come up with the next awesome thing to say) to notice what she’s going through…
…and you decide to put your needs aside and give her what she wants (rather than trying to trick her into wanting to be with you).
There are a few key questions that come up at this point in time:
1. How do I change the way I’m acting to make her feel good?
2. How do I know what she wants?
3. How do I get out of my head and focus on her?
4. How can I feel good when I don’t have women in my life?
Well, there’s one key point you need to know before I can answer these.
The answer to ALL of these questions, as well as any other you have about how to attract women, is the same.
There’s one core element that controls all of these elements and one core thing you can change to deal with all your barriers.
It’s this little thing called: Purpose.
It’s the core, driving layer that creates (and eliminates) every barrier you face with women.
If you want to know how your purpose ruins your chance with women before you even open your mouth…
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…but also exactly how you can change your purpose and become the kind of Man who is naturally and effortlessly attractive to women.
Leigh.
P.S. To help you see how powerful this concept is, I have an exercise for you.
I want you to write out a list of every problem you currently face in meeting and attracting women.
Once you have that list, go through it and ask yourself:
‘If I was solely focused on helping her feel the way she wants to feel, would this still be a problem?’
For example:
Let’s say that one of the big things you’re worried about is rejection. You hold yourself back because you’re afraid that she might respond negatively.
If this is an issue for you, that’s fine.
Just consider this:
If your full attention was on helping her feel better about herself, would you still worry about rejection?
Would you still be searching for ways to stop her from rejecting you?
Or would you be more worried about how she was feeling and what you could do to help her?
And if you were, how do you think that would affect your chances of being rejected?
Would you be more likely to be rejected if you were trying to attract her without getting rejected…
…or if you were just focused on helping her feel excited, alive, passionate, and challenged?
Go through your entire list of sticking points and see what you come up with. I guarantee you’ll be surprised with what you’re left with.
If you want to become the kind of Man who doesn’t have to worry about rejection, anxiety, running out of things to say, or sexual escalation, then…
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